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After Menopause: How Sex is Different

 

HEALTHY SEX

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As most menopausal women could probably tell you, “the change” is about much more than just what is going on physically. For many, it’s a time of significant life change – a time to decide between what was “good enough” before and what is absolutely necessary for the second half of life. And this goes for sex, too. While earlier in a woman’s life, sex may have been about attracting or pleasing a partner, without much focus on herself, her attitudes about sex may be very different after menopause.

Here are some of the things I hear from my menopausal clients about sex at midlife:

“It hurts.” Menopause means a reduction of hormones that keep the vagina supple and moist. This drop in hormones also means that the body isn’t prompting for sex like it used to. But a woman still needs to have regular sexual intercourse to help keep the vulva fit. Sex shouldn’t hurt and getting help early will prevent complications. Women should consult their gynecologist about their unique risks and benefits for hormone replacement that can ease. Desire is a complex function of what’s happening in the body, mind, and relationship, so physical therapists, sex therapists, and marriage counselors can also help. With a little support, couples can resolve painful sex and relational problems to have joyful intimacy for the rest of their lives.

“For me to want sex, my partner has to respect me outside the bedroom.” For most women, the quality of a committed relationship has to be good in order to feel sexual desire. Earlier bargains for a provider-protector or handsome-charming partner may not be relevant after the wear and tear of twenty or so years. Philosopher Koestenbaum says “Expect two marriages in every lifetime, sometimes to the same person.” Couples often have to do quite a bit of renegotiation to go forward at her menopause.

“After 50, interest is sexy.” Certainly someone who listens well, remembers what we’ve asked for, and tunes into nuance in a sexual moment makes an exciting lover. But curiosity about who we are at this age, even if they’ve known us half our lives, is also a powerful aphrodisiac. It’s a turn-on to be asked about our thoughts, opinions, history and passions. For instance, menopausal, divorced or widowed women report a resurgence of desire as their new partners find them sexy and fascinating.

“I want mine, too.” Fortunately, for many women orgasm is still a powerful experience at midlife. And beyond that, they may relish the pleasure of arousal even as a stand-alone – sensual pleasure like hair-brushing, stroking, holding hands, and lying together. More importantly, at midlife women are often unapologetic for insisting on that sexual satisfaction is mutual.

“I’m done worrying about what I look like.” Menopause gives women an opportunity to leave their inhibitions and self-criticism behind. A very young 70-year-old female client of mine said, “I’ve always loved sex; it’s where I feel the most at home.” Her partner was giddy about how beautiful she had been and still was. Any physical imperfection was overshadowed by her amazing joy in the experience.

Author Laurie Watson

Source: WebMD.com

Date: Tuesday, October 18, 2016

Important:

The opinions expressed in WebMD Second Opinion are solely those of the User, who may or may not have medical or scientific training. These opinions do not represent the opinions of WebMD.

What does a healthy relationship look like?

 

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A healthy relationship thrives when you recognise each other’s differences and…

  • When both parties can express themselves.
  • When there is mutual appreciation.
  • When you are happy together.
  • When you and your partner support each other.
  • When you make sacrifices for each other.
  • When you and your partner have patience towards each other.
  • When there is mutual protection.
  • When you and your partner feel love for each other.
  • When you and your partner feel mutual admiration.
  • When you and your partner spend quality time together.
  • When you have effective communication with each other.
  • When both parties exercise person responsibility and tackle challenges.
  • When you and your partner demonstrate forgiveness towards each other.
  • When you and your partner are open with each other.
  • When you have mutual trust.
  • When you and your partner have fun.
  • When you and your partner can be yourself.

Regardless of gender please support a positive platform for discussion and dismiss toxic energies.

  • encourage your partner to have a voice and reap the rewards.
  • Make a stand, escape the revolving negative traps, recover and be free to focus on productive pursuits.

And keep the positive fire burning in your relationship.

Rare Diamond.

 

 

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Size Isn’t Everything: 8 Ways to Please Her

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HEALTHY SEX

Tuesday, July 19, 2016
Size Isn’t Everything: 8 Ways to Please Her
By Laurie J. Watson, LMFT

In sixteen years specializing in sex therapy, I’ve had only three women out of thousands, complain that their guy’s penis was too small. But I’ve had about a hundred guys worry aloud about their size. If you, like these men, are worried that your length and girth don’t fulfill your partner’s needs, here are a few things you can do:

1. Be a good lover. Focus on her body – not your anxiety. Your attentiveness to her pleasure can make you the greatest lover ever. Learn how to arouse her with time, flirtation, and seduction. Her mind is her most powerful sex organ and will respond to your desire and sexual intensity.

2. Keep your belly flat. You may not have stupendous genital anatomy, but women report getting more turned on by looking at his abs than by looking at his genitals. Also, a big belly makes your penis look smaller because your abdomen appears to absorb penile length.

3. Don’t believe porn. Despite what porn suggests, women don’t actually want huge penises and unending intercourse. Really. Really! Scads of my female patients report problems with too large of a penis.

4. Develop great manual technique. Know what you’re doing. Watch her vulva as you arouse her so that you can really understand her specific anatomy. Women report mind-blowing orgasms with concurrent G-spot and clitoral stimulation – nearly only achievable with fingers.

5. Get good at oral sex. Most women can’t climax through penetration, so she’ll appreciate a masterful focus on her clitoris. Oral sex is as powerful for women as it is for men, so developing this skill is a big win.

6. Be open to toys and dildos. If she loves climaxing with a full vagina but can’t feel enough of you, be creative in fulfilling her fantasies. It’s the spirit of play and love that make sex great. Then, after she climaxes, it’s your turn to just let loose with intercourse.

7. Insert a finger along with your penis. Girth is more important than length because vaginal feeling is most intense for about the first 2 inches. She’ll appreciate the extra stretch.

8. Try a textured condom. Some condoms are designed to add texture, thickness, and length.

No body is perfect, and no body stays perfect. But with a little work, sex can feel fantastic for almost any two-body combination.

Souce: http://blogs.webmd.com/healthy-sex/2016/07/size-isnt-everything-8-ways-to-please-her.html?ecd=wnl_sxr_081116&ctr=wnl-sxr-081116_nsl-promo-v_2&mb=6%2fcjf0QxQ3e%40AHIpZMdWGRXFE73IOX1cwaU62rnyZkQ%3d

 

 

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