Intimate relationships.

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What do you yearn for in a partner?

Intimate relationships
Most people view the concept of relationships as a natural expectation and work toward that end. However, despite the probable investments how many bother to exercise caution or recognise the importance of astute investigations? After all you are likely to entrust a partner, with your inner-self, your inner secrets and your inner soul. As a consequence most people are somewhat at their partner’s mercy so to speak because they disclose private information and unveil intimate personal details about themselves. Needless to say if one or both parties lack maturity and/or respect, ultimately turbulence will be a feasible expectation. On the same token if mutual love and trust permeates a relationship then the sky is the limit in terms of progress.

Personal assessment
The dynamics of relationship is a complex process, can you mentally manage and maintain a productive relationship? Preferably before you decide to engage in an intimate relationship it is wise to do some soul searching first. Ask yourself:
• Can my qualities support a good relationship and will I use them?
• Am I an emotionally grounded person?
• What personal challenges do I need to address?
• How do I feel about negotiating?
The answer to these questions will have an impact on the quality of your relationship. Some individuals view the art of assessment as a perceived inconveniency and avoid or downplay the process, warning this is likely to formulate a rocky foundation thus creating a bumpy ride. In view of this, improve your prospects of engaging in a successful relationship. If you are not sure where to start, you can access advice and support via the internet, a relationship advisor, a counsellor or general advisory services, alternately you could speak with or receive advice from family members and or close friends.

Accessing useful advice
When seeking or dating a partner the evaluation process can be a daunting experience however, there is a wide range of tactics and suggestions accessible to address this subject matter. For example there has been much debate about the 90 day rule technique, which is a guide to observe and test the quality of a potential partner’s values. Some allude to the notion that this is a weak game which can be used to manipulate either or both parties to create a misguided perception, while others swear by its proficiency. Irrespectively some recommendations mentioned are undeniably useful while engaging in a relation as you will find in most reputable relationship guide books.

What are your relationship expectations?
Most people like to envision a perfect relationship filled with love and dedication however this is unrealistic, we all have faults and weakness to contend with and we live in an imperfect world. This is not to say we cannot have a productive bond but what are the benchmarks? A productive bond is accomplished when your values and needs are coherent with your relationship and life style; with this in mind take the time out to document your expectations. Once you have established your needs, values and what you are looking for in your relationship, you can research options and tips to employ strategies that will help develop and accommodate your aspirations.
Source: abstract from- Rare Diamond’s Relationship and feeling manual.

4 responses to “Intimate relationships.

  1. This is actually a great piece, thank you for sharing. It actually made me realise how important the 90 day rule is… The same way an employer would not automatically employ a potential employee without a probation period is exactly how i will approach my relationships from now on. It only makes sense!

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  2. Intimate relationships have to be one of the most complicated aspects of your life to get right, in my experience at least. It is a matter of trial and error, to find out what you want and to find someone who fits those qualities. I don’t think someone should settle for second best, they should go for their most ideal.

    The 90-day rule is a great test that I never considered, I will have to keep that in mind. I like too that you touched upon the importance of assessment of yourself before jumping into a relationship. You’re considering things like, is this girl going to fill a void in my life? Is this the right time for me, mentally and emotionally?

    Great post, seriously! We should connect, come check me out! Just search “Toronto Life Coach” on Google, I am studying under Master Life Coach Bruno LoGreco. Keep up the inspiring work!

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