Monthly Archives: October 2014

A little counsel for those ending or enduring a turbulent relationship.

Signs of toxic relationships!

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Let’s have a look at some signs of a toxic relationship

Here are 8 things that you should not be habitually asking your partner…

  1. Why are you doing this to me?
  2. Why do you behave as though you don’t like me?
  3. How can you do this to me?
  4. Can’t you see that what you are doing affects me?
  5. Tell me, what have I done to deserve this?
  6. How can you be this way and feel no remorse?
  7. Why don’t you consider my feeling?
  8. Why are you being so unreasonable?

Why is this wrong? For the most part, these ‘pleas’ demonstrate that a person is feeling vulnerable in a toxic relationship otherwise you wouldn’t feel the need to be asking such questions.

Faking it: Many women pretend to have an orgasm so their partner’s feelings are not hurt

There are women who scream with eye-popping pleasure when they orgasm – but there are others who FAKE IT just so they can reach ecstasy.

Scientists claim pretending to enjoy sex can make intercourse more enjoyable, according to a study published in the Journal of Sexual Archives.

They found four motives that formed the Faking Orgasm Scale for Women.

It peaks at a conclusion that women were more likely to fake an orgasm to turn THEMSELVES on than to end sex.

The four motives are: Altruistic Deceit, faking orgasm out of concern for a partner’s feelings; Fear and Insecurity, faking orgasm to avoid negative emotions associated with the sexual experience; Elevated Arousal, a woman’s attempt to increase her own arousal through faking orgasm; and Sexual Adjournment, faking orgasm to end sex.

The bedroom boffins from Temple University and Kenyon College asked 481 heterosexual females – who were not in relationships – to indicate how much individual factors influenced their decision to fake orgasms.

Researchers found the most common reason for faking an orgasm was altruism because they did not want to hurt their partner’s feelings.

Erin Cooper, who co-authored the study, told The Huffington Post: “Deciding to fake orgasm for this motive may have little to nothing to do with a woman’s partner and his sexual experience.

“I view this strategy as one of the many ‘tools in the toolbox’ women may use to enhance their own sexual experience.”


What is your views? please share.

Relationships and diversions

Relationship challenges

This man’s facial expression indicates that he is in love, clearly size did not matter too him. When two people meet and fall in love, if their love is sincere nothing will stand in their way.
Agree or disagree?

Relationships and challenges

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Does size really matter? 

Source: The ‘Viralious moment worth sharing’ website

Confident about her body and loving herself for the way she is, Mikel says, “Men don’t fancy skinny girls, they like an hourglass figure.” And her husband couldn’t agree more. Mikel has been married for ten years to a man who finds her unique shape incredibly sexy.clear they did not allow  nothing will stand in the way of their love.

Is it possible to overcome physical differences, if so how?

Who or what controls your mind?

The pressures of our fashion system or personal choice?


This lady, Michelle Kobke has an hourglass figure representing one of the smallest in the world. Everyone has the right to choose how they look, but on your opinion is this-
A healthy look? A sexy look? A deceiving look? Or a distasteful look? Please share your views

What are the basic requirements to build a meaningful relationship?

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The ‘Sexual Reminisces’ blog.

Here you will find platform to have discussions about topics relating to the  ‘Sexual Reminisces’ book.
My aim is to provide a forum for individuals to discuss:
  • Relationships and feelings
  • Health relationships
  • Problem solving techniques
  • Sex tips/advice
  • Respectful taboo sexual matters

About the author of ‘Sexual Reminisces.’

A profile for Xrem

Hi my name is Zelda Gunzell, I live in South London I have 5 children and nine grandchildren. I am an author, a programme designer, a personal development/ relationship advisor and I run a company called Through knowledge gain power Ltd.

Main interest:
• Relationship counselling
• Supporting public awareness
• Coaching youths and their family
• Assisting person development

Food for thought

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Is this realistic and if so how can it be achieved?

Relationship tips

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 What can you add?